The ease of school relationships can wax and wane just as in any other group. When teachers get along well, the entire school can be a vibrantly productive and nourishing environment. When teachers have conflicts, chilliness and fragmented collegiality can affect everyone. Why would we expect teachers to be happily cooperative all the time? Teachers likely do not have a hand in hiring their co- workers, and therefore they must adjust to all types of personalities, pedagogical preferences, and teaching styles. Even with these sometimes strident differences, collegial relationships are essential to the health of schools and school personnel. Key to this vision is behaving with friendliness to others, rather than expecting all others to be our friends. When the “Be friendly, but not friends” mantra is given to student teachers and school interns, it is intended to help these novice educators maintain professional distances with students. But for teachers at any stage of their career, it also can be helpful to distinguish friendship and friendliness. We could define “friends” as: • Those with whom we spend time outside school hours • Those who know our family and home life • Those with whom we share personal, sometimes private information Using these criteria, we may have more acquaintances than friends at school. And those professional distances are not necessarily a hindrance to vibrant school communities. With courteous conversations, cordial comportment, and caring camaraderie, being friendly may be enough.